How to create and use affirmations
Updated: Dec 7, 2022
An affirmation, coping statement, or mantra is something you repeat to yourself and for yourself either aloud or in your heart.
It’s a great way of using words to help you change unwanted behaviours, create new habits, boost your confidence and give yourself positive vibes!
It’s the opposite of the self-sabotaging negative self-talk that you might find yourself unwittingly engaging in. These thoughts pop up all too easily and, if we’re not careful, colour our day.
If you want to give yourself a real chance to achieve your goal, then a good coping statement will be one of the strategies that can help you.
Each time you repeat your affirmation you reinforce your new thoughts, feelings or behaviours.
Imagine it as your mind creating a new path and abandoning the old one, letting it gradually disappear completely.
A coping statement is sometimes used in therapy or in self-help as an anchor that gathers together your goal in one sentence.
Here are a few tips to make your mantra more powerful:
Choose your words
Word your affirmation carefully. Think about the resonance of the words. Make your affirmation true to you, not too lengthy, and remember to use the present tense and no negatives.
Here are a couple of examples...
If you want to stop smoking:
I choose to be a nonsmoker (present tense and affirmative)
I’m a happy, healthy nonsmoker (present tense and affirmative)
If you’re a nail biter:
Each time I leave my nails alone they are getting stronger, healthier and prettier
I have healthy nails and smooth soft skin
Try a couple of variants until you get the one that fits. Don’t just pick one off the shelf!
How you say it counts!
Once you have your affirmation, practice saying it out loud in a tone that is convincing, strong, and determined. How you say something is just as important as what you say.
Don’t just pay lip service to your affirmation, it will work the more you believe in it. The more real you make it.
Create time in your day!
Set aside time in your day to repeat your affirmation. Decide to give it importance. Here's a simple routine that you can do
Settle your body, quieten your breathing and calm your mind. Give yourself a few minutes to switch from being busy to still.
Then repeat your coping statement.
Imagine believing the words.
Imagine how it would feel to really be what you are saying.
Bring the feelings up to accompany your words, and make them as strong as possible.
Change the expression on your face and the muscle tone in your body to match your words.
Believe it body and soul!
How can cognitive behavioural hypnotherapy help?
Hypnosis lets you imagine different situations as if they were real.
Did you know that your mind doesn’t know that what you are imagining is not ‘real’? It believes that it is happening now. It believes the words you say to yourself wholeheartedly.
This is what makes hypnosis so powerful as a healing tool.
When in hypnosis, you can practise situations before you live them in real life, or relive past experiences and overlay them with new coping mechanisms. You can be that person, achieve the goal, and feel those different emotions. When you can do this in hypnosis you can do it in real life.
The path is there. The memory is created.
When you are in a deeply relaxed, focused, and clear hypnotic mindset your imagination is open, creative, and supple. When you repeat your affirmation in hypnosis it takes root deeper in your mind
Hypnosis is creative, strategic, positive thinking to help you get the most out of your life.
How will your hypnotherapist help?
A hypnotherapy session is generally divided into two parts, firstly gathering information and then hypnosis linked to your particular challenge.
During the first part of your session, you work with your hypnotherapist so that your mantra/coping statement/affirmation is as meaningful as possible.
Then, your hypnotherapist will guide you to a place of deep body and mind relaxation. Once truly calm and peaceful you can let your mantra flow over you and embody your goal. It becomes real in your mind and opens the gates to it becoming real in your life.
Hypnosis lets you add an extra layer of efficiency, depth, and colour to your words. Your hypnotherapist will guide you through this deep, vivid experience that will remain with you long after the session is over.
Doesn’t it make sense to take the time to choose and put in place that perfect coping statement to help you achieve your goal?